Found on the Keirsey Temperment Sorter Site

April 2, 2007

If I do not want what you want, please try not to tell me that my want is wrong.

Or if I believe other than you, at least pause before you correct my view.

Or if my emotion is less than yours, or more, given the same circumstances, try not to ask me to feel more strongly or weakly.

Or yet if I act, or fail to act, in the manner of your design for action, let me be.

I do not, for the moment at least, ask you to understand me. That will come only when you are willing to give up changing me into a copy of you.

I may be your spouse, your parent, your offspring, your friend, or your colleague. If you will allow me any of my own wants, or emotions, or beliefs, or actions, then you open yourself, so that some day these ways of mine might not seem so wrong, and might finally appear to you as right — for me.

To put up with me is the first step to understanding me. Not that you embrace my ways as right for you, but that you are no longer irritated or disappointed with me for my seeming waywardness. And in understanding me you might come to prize my differences from you, and, far from seeking to change me, preserve and even nurture those differences.

Taken from David Keirsey’s site, based on the Myers-Briggs personality types



  1. Oooooh, any reference to Myers-Briggs brings back memories. Years ago a co-worker and I were discussing the various personality types in front of my boss, who got so interested that he went out and learned his. It turned out that he, like me, was an ISTJ. Later I heard a presentation that included some semi-tongue-in-cheek “rules” including “Two ISTJs will always butt heads.” Yup!

  2. Good advice, for sure.

    I’m sorry you’re feeling down lately. I’ll keep you in my prayers. Chin up, hot stuff. 🙂

  3. Hazy ~ I could have guessed that! But then, that’s why I would never make any money as one of those scientific types. God knows we need you/them, though. What they keep MY personality type around for, I’m sure I have no idea. 😉 That’s funny about the ISTJs. I can totally see that happening. Funny thing that when you get to ENFPs together, they start laughing and won’t stop talking. Imagine!

    Diesel ~ left you a thank you note on your blog, but I’ll thank you here, as well. I had a jump start on Monday and have been feeling much better/more myself, but more on that to come. Big hugs to you for caring!

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