If you like pina coladas

April 20, 2008

So I’m screwing around on match.com today, just checking out the possibilities and asked the computer to choose only 100% matches for me. I’m what he wants, and he’s what I want.

On page two (which was infinitely easier to find than the first time four years ago), I found:


And yes, he says he’s divorced.

So apparently, we’re divorced. I didn’t realize it, but hey, it’s just a piece of paper so there you have it.

My girlfriend said I should wink at him.

I didn’t feel like it.

Oh, I did. Four years ago. I suppose the lesson is that profiles and attraction to a photo won’t tell you how a relationship will go, how it will end. Parts of it were lovely while it lasted. For those parts I am truly, truly grateful.



  1. Oh, my gosh! (No, I’m not stalking you. These just keep showing up in my reader. 🙂

  2. Hi Chani,

    I can’t think of anyone I’d rather be stalked by. Truthfully, it’s really comforting that you’re here. Thanks for that. Hope you’re doing well!

  3. That’s so true – overlapping wants and interests and so on, don’t necessarily guarantee lifelong happiness. But … must of sucked to see he was already listing himself as divorced.

  4. Citizen ~ You know what’s funny? It didn’t hurt *nearly* as badly as I thought it might. A part of me thought, “Well, look at that — he felt like he had some success before and so he’s going to try it again. Good for him!” I know that as much as he really likes living alone that he doesn’t want to *be* alone. I can respect that — understand it. Our hearts divorced each other last year. It’s just a matter of the paperwork now. I know you know.

  5. Having wandered your paths I am almost finding this a bit of a nostalgia trip. I like your attitude, though. Quite frankly I don’t find it surprises me, knowing a tiny bit about how you work, or at least how you reveal how you work on these pages. You’re tough. I like that. It’ll serve you well and keep you out of potholes.

  6. Great that you’re able to look back and laugh. and at least feel good about the good stuff. also, quite a funny story yeah?

  7. Ian ~ Look at how our lives just keep intermingling! I wish I *felt* tougher, but I’m still here and still kicking, so I suppose that’s a good thing. Thank you again, as always, for your encouragement.

    Iz ~ The irony was not lost on me. 😉

  8. Sometimes what we want is not what we need. It must have just depressed the heck out of you to see that profile. Give him a kick, not a wink.

  9. Say It ~ Once again, amen, sister! And I’m surprised that I wasn’t *more* depressed about it, truthfully — I took it as a compliment, in a weird sense, that somehow he had hope that since I’d found him that perhaps someone he wanted to marry just as much would find him again — no luck so far as his words to me this afternoon were once again, “Maybe we could make this living in separate houses thing work.” Hmmmm. I miss the good parts, but not enough that I’m willing to put up with the bad parts again, you know?

  10. I would have been tempted to contact him under an alias and then stand him up.

    You’re so much nicer.

  11. Heart ~ I’m sorry I didn’t see this sooner. If he had been less than he is, I might have had the same thought!

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